The Fool: Chewed Up and Spit Out

I keep finding out that there was more. It was happening right in front of my face. I didn't see it, though friends of ours did. It's the whole reason Tall and Sassy stopped coming by even. God my heart hurts. I defended him. I lost friends because of him. He promised he wouldn't make a fool of me because of her. I even had joked that I would rather him cheat on me with anyone but her. Here I am, the fool.

I can't even tell when I am drunk anymore. My last drink was roughly around two in the morning but I'm still spinning. I'm so exhausted but the only time I can really sleep is when I pass out from the alcohol, any other time I try I just lay there for hours with my eyes closed feeling my heartbeat pound through every part of my body. I've made myself sick over this, pneumonia will become a threat here soon if I'm not careful.

I couldn't take him back right now if I tried. I know I deserve better then everything he's doing to me now, for the past nine years, I deserve better.

But I am petrified now. I'm a housewife, haven't had a job in five years, he is my sole provider and come payday when I handed over five hundred dollars for rent, he begrudgingly threw a fifty dollar bill my way. He said his only legal obligation was to the apartment, not to me. I basically don't deserve more because of what he has already given me. He even accused me of not letting me get his stuff, something he has never asked to do.

Even after ending it, he said he'd always be there for me and that he loves me and never wants to lose contact, but now he's being mean. Cruel for the sake of trying to make himself feel better. It's making me scared. Tomorrow are his days off, is he going to show up and start taking things? Things I don't want him to take? Things I feel he has no right to take? He walked out, doesn't that mean that he pretty much gets what I let him take?

I have to call legal assistance tomorrow. God this is hard. His ring is on his keychain and I can't bring myself to take it off. It really shows a lot.

My saving grace is my friends, ones that I thought were mainly his, new friends who's hearts reach out to me and old friends that I never thought I'd see again but I find myself looking for because they were part of my life before him.

I just wish I wasn't so scared, of what to do, of what is going to happen. I wish someone could take these next few steps for me. I wish I felt stronger.

S.O.S.

He left. He wasn't happy. Had been lying for years. I have to decide to move back with my mom or try to figure out how to afford this expensive apartment that was supposed to be our future without him. We don't even have rent paid for this month, Our Bum literally lost his money (only half of what it was supposed to be by the way) and I'm not sure what is going to happen. I am drunk. I am not alone, thankfully, but the Brat is asleep and I'm sure she'll have to leave in the morning leaving me alone. Everyone has been worried about me being alone, even him. That's where he's been staying, her place, the Brat. No, she's not the problem. His girlfriend would be the problem, Betty. Yeah. I'll give you my phone number doppelganger, at least the one I can be found at for the moment. I don't know how to say more. I don't know how to do more. I don't know how to be more. I need another drink.

This, That and the Other Thing (Because It's Just Never Over)

Wrong even when I'm right. It's becoming a theme.

Alcohol is kind of expensive, we can all agree on that, right? So why was it so unreasonable to say to Our Bum roommate that he needed to contribute more to the alcohol fund? He'll pull out a dollar and ask for a drink, then make himself another three without asking or paying. That's not exactally fair when we are this freaking broke, so I said something. I made him upset, even the hubby didn't want to look at me. I went upstairs and cried, always the bad guy.

Our Bum ended up disappearing for two days, of course without the courtesy call that we have been begging for years for so we know he hasn't ended up in jail or the hospital, like he has been known to do. He felt disrespected by me, because he assumed that things would be more equal once we were roommates and he wasn't just the bum on our couch. I don't know how equal it's supposed to be when he's only contributing a third of what this place needs to keep running and even that is unreliable. He wasn't doing any of the things he said he would do, like finding a new job that could actually pay the bills. I'm pessimistic, so sue me.

I couldn't help but be worried. We are really, really broke. Our Bum was only able to give us some of the money he owed us by putting his tips from work into the poker machine. I try to bring up a semi-important topic that impacts the likely hood or not of peaceful coexistence and he runs away. What's going to happen when it's something more serious then booze?

Oh, it gets better, much better.

The good news: Something really amazing happened for Our Bum. Like life altering, light at the end of the tunnel, choirs singing amazing. On the one month anniversary of moving into this new apartment, he announces he is getting full custody of his son and is moving out.

The bad news: It leaves us completely screwed when it comes to this apartment. Everything was relying on this, on depending on him and trusting that it would be okay. We can not afford this apartment on our own, and I can't even complain because this is the best thing in the world for him and his son. All I can do about it is cry and feel selfish.

The resolution: Betty is going to be moving in with us once Our Bum finds a new place. Not only is this going to cause rumors based on the events covered in my last post, but I'm going to be living with someone that I really don't know very well. I remember now why I didn't like roommates. It should be interesting to say the least. To go with our three cats, she has a cat, a dog and a Guinea pig that she will be bringing with. Like I said, interesting.

In the meantime: Things happened faster then anyone expected and Our Bum's two year old son is now staying with us. Our place is not set up for kids. Environmentally, mentally, nothing. I can't smoke (weed or cigarettes) in my own living room, I felt banished to my room. I woke up this morning to screaming, crying and laughing, all of which the hubby slept through. Added to this inconvenience is the the fact that it is completely up in the air as to when he will be leaving or whether or not we will see any money from him at all, let alone enough to fill the gap needed to pay rent and bills.

Again, I'm the bad guy. I am bothered that we dropped so low on Our Bum's priority list, courtesy having gone straight out the window. I am irritated that there is a toddler running around dominating my house without having even been asked, only told what was going to happen. I'm sick to my stomach worrying about all the financial difficulties we are facing and it's just so much harder for me then the hubby to believe “it's all going to be alright” or “it'll work out.”

Sadly it doesn't matter. The hubby doesn't agree with me so I basically just feel wrong. I can't complain, he doesn't want to hear it anymore. I'm over reacting. I'm melodramatic. I'm probably just some horrible person who can't put up with a two year old. Shouldn't it matter that I am feeling this way though? Even if I am being a horrible unfair bitch, shouldn't it mean something, anything, that I feel so uncomfortable in my own home?

I know I have been emotional lately. Monday was my shot and with the drama of the last month, it was a roller coaster ride I so wanted to get off of. I'm probably being overly sensitive to things I shouldn't be, but what's so wrong with needing reassurance?

I hate to say it, but it even seems like the hubby doesn't want me as much lately. I miss his arm around me when we are drifting off to sleep. I'm sure this is too much information but when we didn't have a door at the old apartment, he'd reach for me even when someone was snoozing out on the couch (as uncomfortable as it made me) but now... we have a door, we have privacy, and we have only “been together” three or four times in the last month. Maybe I'm over reacting, feeling bad unnecessarily, but I'm feeling it, and that makes it at least partially valid, right?

On top of everything, we have been socially stunted by the weather. It's been freezing and snowing since Sunday and no one really wants to venture out on the roads. Monday night consisted of us, Brat and Betty, because they live within walking distance. Tall is still illusive, Sassy still seemingly not speaking to me, and Hairy keeps coming over but only in hopes of seeing Prissy here, who has been snowed in a few towns over for days. It's snowing even as we speak, so it means another trip on the bus for the hubby, turning a six minute drive into an hour long adventure. Ugh.

I'm home alone and chain smoking, so I think it's time to find something better to do. The drama doesn't seem to be ending anytime soon my dear blog, so I'm sure I'll be back before too long.

To Hell in a Handbasket

Yes, I know, it's been forever. Don't be too mad at me though, it's not all my fault.

First off, if you didn't already gather, we moved. The hubby, Our Bum and I now have a huge apartment and it's awesome. Two bedrooms, one and a half baths, washer and dryer, dishwasher. We really couldn't ask for much more. Moving pretty much sucked though. We got approval on a Wednesday, packing by Thursday, rented the U-Haul on Saturday and had everything out of the old place by Tuesday.

Right in the middle of things, I tweaked my back pretty good and found myself damn near in tears every time I had to bend down to pick something up. We were all tired and sore but we got it done, without a word to Li'l Mama or a dollar to our old Managers. I've been working on unpacking, it hasn't been the funnest task. It truly is a shock that we were able to fit all of this crap into that tiny old apartment, because once you spread everything out here, it's impossible to believe it could have been done.

Settling in, relaxing, readjusting and we were able to have our Thanksgiving celebration the Monday before Thanksgiving. We made a bunch of food, breaking in our new kitchen, and all our friends contributed at least a little to the cause. There were fifteen of us, something that could have never happened in the old apartment. Alcohol was abundant, but it was no biggie because it had already been prearranged that some people would be crashing on our living room floor.

This is where things went sour. Are you sure you want to hear the story? For sure? Really? Alright, you asked for it.

Like I said, there was a lot of alcohol. People started heading home, leaving the current floor dwellers and a few friends who live close. I head up to bed (yes up, it's a townhouse, hehe) because I had one too many drinks and didn't want to end up spinning. Everyone was left in the living room. Everyone being: Tall, Sassy, their buddy (all prearranged to sleep there) Our Bum, as well as two of the waitresses from the hubby's work.

As for the waitresses... I need to come up with names for them, I've already mentioned one several times and the other is sure to be mentioned quite a bit from here on out considering she is our new neighbor. I think we'll call the one I have already spoken of Brat, military reference, not personality reference and the other we'll call... Betty, an old biddy name to represent a wisdom beyond her years and experience.

Anyway, back to the story. Here, I'll add a few side notes to help the understanding of some of these people's mindsets. Our Bum had a thing with Brat, then didn't want anything to do with her. Our Bum then decided he likes Betty, really pissing off Brat. Our Bum had used Betty to make Brat jealous, Betty didn't know this. As far as everyone else, the hubby was drunk, no denying that. Tall was pretty far gone and Sassy hadn't been feeling good all night so she was going back and forth between happy, moody and asleep, and their friend was half passed out, half rolling on the floor mumbling.

Remember this is all stuff I found out after the fact, all of the stories match up and I believe that it did all happen this way.

Sassy woke up, went out on the patio for fresh air. Our Bum laid down on the floor so Betty could pop his back (this is a common occurance, she has done the same thing for the hubby and several others.) Betty bent over, right in front of the hubby, and he goosed her. Sassy freaked.

The next morning before Our Bum, the hubby and I woke up, Tall, Sassy, their buddy and Brat all left. (Making quite a racket with the front door, waking me up unapologetically.) Brat, by the way, was not supposed to be spending the night. Not only had she crashed on our couch the night before, but she only lives two blocks away. How drunk do you have to be to not be able to make it two blocks?

Sorry, sidetracked. After that, Sassy's MySpace status was confusing. “Why did she have to see what she saw,” kind of bullshit. I had no clue, I thought maybe Tall did something, or the buddy that had gotten drunker then she had ever seen him. Coworkers started approaching the hubby at work, asking weird questions about Betty stealing Brat's boyfriend and a couple of other odd things.

This all happened Monday night, Wednesday evening, I get a message (a MySpace message even) from Sassy. She needed to talk to me, it was real important and she didn't want the hubby to know. Whatever it was, was a really big deal, she didn't know whether to say anything and it was turning her stomach just to think about it. Needless to say, I kind of got freaked out. At this point, I still assumed that it had to do with Tall or something, no clue. I sent her a message back, waited for quite some time for a response and nothing. I texted her, no answer. I called her, no answer. I texted Tall, he said he was pretty sure she didn't have her phone on her.

Hours go by while I let this sit in the pit of my stomach with not so much as a peep out of anyone, so of course when the hubby got home, I told him about it. He had no clue what it could possibly be about but it started freaking him out too. No response all night, nor the next morning and still no one could be bothered to answer their phone.

The hubby, knowing how bad this was getting to me, called Tall from a pay phone at work, the only way we could get him to answer thanks to the modern miracle of caller ID. He told him what this was doing to me and that he needed to know what it was all about.

“____ saw you grab ____'s ass.”

Oh, that! That's what this is all about? Are you kidding me? The hubby told Tall to let him tell me what was going on, knowing that Sassy would only make it worse. Sassy took that as she was being sworn to silence. Tall said he wanted to stay out of it until it all (whatever “it all” is) blew over.

Thanksgiving Thursday I finally get a message back from Sassy. She'd been asked to stay quiet. It was heart wrenching and she knew how I felt. There was nothing she could do now, the ball was rolling, I'd know soon enough. Considering I still had no clue what was going on, this only freaked me out more. I asked her how she could talk to me this way and it be at all fair? If she had something to say, say it. She wouldn't say it. I texted the hubby. He knew what was going on now, but didn't want to try texting it, he said he'd tell me when he got home. Brat knew about it too.

Freaked out and frustrated, I was near tears, and the topper on the cake was that my mom was on her way to come pick me up, great. My mom showed and we headed down to the hubby's work for dinner. He still didn't want to tell me, feeling weird about saying any of it in front of my mom. He said he'd tell me when he got home.

I have to say, knowing what I know now, all the procrastinating only made things worse. My stomach hurt, my head hurt. Somebody should have just said it.

The hubby got home a while after I had gotten home from dinner and we headed upstairs to talk. He told me. Blink. Are you kidding me? They put me through hell for that? My hubby goosed a friend and coworker, oh dear god it's the end of the world. Oh wait, SO? If I got upset, every time the hubby goosed a friend and/or coworker, playfully, harmlessly, then I wouldn't have much of a marriage, would I? Hell, he has goosed Our Bum more times then I can count this week.

We had conversations about this type of thing, even about Betty specifically. I am not threatened. There is a difference between uncomfortable and threatened and I am certainly not threatened. To be honest, the last time I actually felt my relationship threatened that way was like eight years ago in the early days of dating. I'm uncomfortable with him being close to any girls, but I'm also not psycho, I get that he has no interest in anyone but me and I'm not going to fabricate problems where there is none.

I sent Sassy a letter back saying I knew what had happened and it wasn't that big of a deal. I told her that I was disappointed in her lack of faith in the hubby and I, with all the conversations we have had over the years. I told her she should have come to one of us if she was so uncomfortable, so we could have told her that it was no big deal and we are perfectly fine. She assumed the worst and didn't give anyone the chance to convince her of any different.

It took her a day to respond, and when she did, I can't say it helped any. She assumed the hubby had lied to me or not told me the whole story because of my deflated reaction. Without actually saying the words, she basically called me a forgiving fool and the hubby an asshole for hurting me this way.

The messages kept going back and forth this way, her not believing everything is okay, yet still not telling me what was so horrible to make her assume the worse. I told her she was throwing our friendship away because I wasn't responding the way she wanted me to. I told her that I was an adult in an adult relationship and I am handling it like an adult, which means not throwing my marriage away over something as trivial as what it was.

Tall and Sassy apparently thought we were going to break up, shows a lot of faith, doesn't it? The best part is, with all this going on, neither of them could be bothered to actually be our friends, let alone some of the best friends we have. What if something serious really had been going on? Neither of them would answer their phones, calling or texting. Three years of history with Tall, two years of history with Sassy, and neither could just be our damn friend. Nah, it looks rocky, we're just going to sit back and wait for it to blow over.

My computer ended up crashing in the middle of all this. After a couple days I was able to use Prissy's cell phone to check my MySpace. Two letters from Sassy. The first, more of the same, I must not know the whole story, blah, blah, blah. The second apologizing for the first sounding so harsh but she's still right and I'm still wrong. I sent her a short message saying that my computer crashed so if she actually wanted to talk to me, she had to call. She never called.

People all over the hubby's work knew what had happened, plus about a few things that didn't. Brat was the obvious spreader of these rumors, though she denies it. It even made it beyond the hubby's work, a friend who used to work there and had left Monday night before anything happened, knew the whole story and there is only one place it could have come from. The twisted thing is, Brat actually told Sassy not to make such a big deal of it, but then she turned around and did the exact same thing, plus added a little drama of her own. (Claiming Betty stole her boyfriend, even though he never was her boyfriend, and that Betty was all over him, whatever.)

It took days of nothing from the people involved before the hubby walked down to the gas station near by and called Tall. He didn't answer, but he did call back on the home phone. The hubby told him everything that was going on, or more so the lack of it. The hubby told him he was offended, years dude, what if we really needed a friend. The hubby actually went to see Tall at work and they talked for like an hour and a half. Tall didn't know half of what Sassy had been saying online.

We went one Monday, where we only invited those who didn't create or add to any of the drama. It was a quiet night and it was pretty nice but it was sad that half our group wasn't there. This Monday we told people it was back on and most people showed, including Tall, Sassy and Brat. No drama really. Tall is perfectly fine. Sassy showed up in a bad mood and really didn't socialize and Brat and I had exchanged a few messages talking about not taking advantage of our hospitality and what not so things were decent there. I have the feeling things will never be the same though.

New drama. Our Bum and Betty. It's probably none of our business but at the same time it is. She turned him down, yet they keep getting closer. It makes the hubby and I uncomfortable. She's our neighbor and friend. If and when things went sour between them, that affects us. She's young and the hubby was actually asked years ago to look after her. He may not be a big brother, but he sure knows how to fit into that role. Think of the long term. We could be neighbors for quite some time, and the hubby works with her daily for goodness sakes. Shouldn't that be taken into account?

Anyway, enough of the drama, I have other things to worry about. I still have to figure out what to do about my computer. Hairy is who usually fixes it but he left his Windows disk in Washington and isn't planning on going to get them for a couple months. I'm currently running off a Linux disk that without installing it, can't be used for much other then surfing the internet, and as far as installing it, I think my hard drive might be shot so that narrows my options a little. New hard drive? What if the motherboard is shot too? New computer? That's awfully expensive considering we just moved and dropped nearly every dollar we had on the deposit. I don't think Santa is going to be quite nice enough to help me with this problem.

Anyway, this post is like the equivalent of six pages and there are other people in the room so I had better go. I'll try not to let it be so long before I make it back again.

Wow.

The world, it is a changing.

I defrosted the fridge for the last time yesterday.

This morning, I quite possibly took my last shower without a bathtub.

The countdown has begun to finally leave the bad juju of Li'l Mama behind.

We got the apartment.

Tuesday we looked at it, loved it, filled out the paperwork.

Wednesday we received a call saying we had been approved.

Thursday I am packing.

Friday we are signing the lease.

Saturday and Sunday, we are moving.

Monday night, housewarming Monday.

If only you could feel the pounding in my chest, the heaviness in my stomach. We haven't moved in over seven years, and we have a LOT of crap to pack and I don't even know where to start.

Despite all that, it's happening. We're moving. We are taking that next big step in our lives and getting the hell outta dodge. Not much more then "wow" describes what's going on.

Everyone is so happy for us. Prissy almost can't contain herself because of the happy thought of never having to come to this building (with all it's drama and history) to visit us again, she's bringing boxes for us tonight. So many other people have also offered to help. It looks like my mom will be renting the U-Haul for us, which is a nice perk, and Tall might not go away for the weekend just so he can help, also awesome. The hubby got the weekend off (paid vacation days) so hopefully this will be an efficient move with all of us pitching in.

After this weekend I'll be without the internet until Tuesday, the price of moving the service but I'm sure my blog will survive without me, it always has. I'll have plenty of pictures of the new place to put on my public blog, what it looks like bare and then filled with all of our secondhand crap, should be interesting, huh?

Our Monday nighters will be pleased, the place is huge compared to this one, at least double. Our apartment now is probably smaller then just the downstairs of the new place. Like I said, big changes.

Today and tomorrow will be the last time I have to pay to do a load of laundry or do the dishes by hand because there is a washer, dryer and a dishwasher. It will be the last time I have to sit in line to wait for the bathroom because there will be two of them. It will be the last time we have to fight for hot water because the water heater here was never meant to service six apartments and several businesses. I'll never again have to lug groceries up our over two dozen stairs, or fight for a parking spot or listen to another bar fight. (Halloween night, a really decent guy was killed in a fight right outside our bar next door, it's a sad hit to reality to know something like that happened so close.)

It's a new adventure, this whole moving thing. We went years without so much of a hint of progress and then all of a sudden everything is happening at once. It's a rush. It's scary. But there's no doubt about it, it's happening.

If I don't manage to keep you updated before we loose internet for a few days, I'll have a nice big juicy post for when I get back online. Sounds fair, right? I just want to say thank you to my dear blog and my even more dear doppelganger for your support, I can sure use it right now and you know how to deliver, so again, thanks.

Patience is a virtue...

...that for me, will be thoroughly be tested over the next few days.

We saw the apartment today. THE apartment. The one we have dreamed about, the one we have called about for almost a year, the one that has everything on our list. A two bedroom townhouse, one and a half baths, huge closets (as in plural, more then one, ) a dishwasher, a washer and dryer, an enclosed back patio. One sad note. They raised the rent. Instead of fifty dollars a month more then we are paying now, it's two hundred dollars more a month. There's a price for perfection.

The hubby says we should still do it, if we get accepted, find a way to make it happen and just do it. This could be THE opportunity and we could only blame ourselves if we pass it up. There was no application fee.

We filled one out.

We should know by Thursday.

I don't want to jinx it, but we could be in before Thanksgiving.

My stomach hurts.

I don't want to get my hopes up, and even if we are accepted, there is still the struggle of affording it. I've already promised to apply for a job at the little market down the block from this new place if we get it. Our Bum plans on getting a new job. After we move, the hubby plans on getting a new job. It will work, right? Is this pit sitting in the base of my stomach nerves or dread?

Prissy is learning to read Tarot cards, I wonder if a reading would reveal the financial future that could possibly drive us into ruin. I'm being pessimistic, I know, this isn't a new trait.

I want to dream. I want to picture where to put the couch opposite the television so the hubby and I can reclaim the most comfortable seats in the house. I want to imagine the back patio with the barbeque and some chairs and a table and a bunch of friends on a Monday night. I want to believe in a future that doesn't involve defrosting the fridge once every week and a half, or where the toilet doesn't run at random times all day and night. I like the idea of actually being able to take a fucking bath because I haven't had a bathtub in over seven years.

But, I'm scared. Scared that we'll get rejected, and if not rejected that we won't be able to afford it at some point. Ugh. Mixed blessings. I can't wait to be excited. Maybe I can relax a little after Thursday.

Cross your fingers, say your prayers, send check or money order to... yeah, whatever, just wish us luck.

Ooooo, juicy P.S.: You know how Li'l Mama keeps complaining about the smell of smoke in her apartment? Ha! Maybe she should quit smoking then. Looks like my suspicions were true and she's trying to hide that dirty little secret from her baby-daddy. Hehe. It made my day to find that one out.

Keeping Up a Front

First off: Will someone please tell me how Facebook is supposed to have less drama then MySpace? I signed up for a Facebook account today and could you believe my surprise at one of the first people it recommends for me? Drama personified: Li'l Mama. Ugh. It's funny though, her MySpace is private but her Facebook isn't. I only started the account because Prissy is fed up with the MySpace drama and said she will be deleting her account. She said Facebook "feels good" but I really don't see much of a difference. Drama without the bells and whistles?

On the gossip front, Prissy almost fills my quota when she stops by. I love it. I like knowing what's going on in people's lives, so sue me. I haven't watched a soap opera in seven months so pop up the pop corn and tell me what you got. What her info sums up to I think is despite Hairy's new girlfriend, Prissy and Hairy are not quite over yet. I think everything will change when Hairy finishes school here in the next couple months. It has always been his top priority so let's see what happens when his priorities change.

On the houseguest front, though a little more alone time with the hubby would be nice (he works a similar schedule to the hubby) I thank him every day for not being Ketchup. He politely asks about things that should be implied but he doesn't want to be rude (i.e. taking a shower, borrowing a towel, getting a glass of water, etc.) Not only does he do it himself, but he makes sure others are sitting up if they are smoking a cigarette on my couch or not using a coaster on the coffee table. Refreshing.

On the Ketchup front, his new roommates keep complaining about him. I can't help but smile. Bad me. He doesn't contribute anything. Ha. He never leaves. Ha. He doesn't DO anything but sleep. Ha. After tomorrow (payday) we might actually be able to tell him why he has the feeling we kicked him out. Ha.

On the apartment search front, no progress. Monday or Tuesday we will make some calls, ask me about it then.

On the Tall and Sassy front, they are together, they aren't together, who knows today let alone tomorrow. What it's all added up to is that he's being an ass, who knows why. On top of saying some shockingly hurtful things, he can't seem to muster any empathy for Sassy, the woman he's supposed to love. It's almost like he's suddenly turned to teasing her when she's upset rather then having any concern for why she's upset in the first place. Communication is obviously their biggest problem. She tends to fight with him like she fights with her mother. More then a little condescending and loud, very loud. Him on the other hand, when he's not making flippant comments, he just shuts down. How can that translate into a lasting healthy relationship? It can't, which is why they are again having problems. Sassy's been hanging out a lot, quite a bit without the company of Tall. I don't mind.

On the hubby front, Sunday was his birthday so last week I let him go to the midnight release and buy (full price mind you, a big step for me especially considering our desperate lack of funds) Fable 2 for the XBox 360. He loves it. I love it. It's a great game and the hubby spent his birthday doing exactly what he wanted, playing.

Connecting back to the Tall and Sassy front, the hubby's birthday has actually been an issue. Tall has been to probably a dozen birthday parties this month for all his work buddies (who have become ever so important) but repeatedly kept forgetting about the hubby's birthday (who after three years instead of six months of friendship like his new buddies, you'd think it wouldn't be so difficult to retain.) He managed to stop by for a short time on the hubby's special day, but then had to leave... because he had made other plans... doing... "stuff." Yeah. Sassy was more pissed then we were (it wasn't exactly new to us that he'd choose his new buddies over us, or only coming over because his original plans fell through) but I don't blame her for it. It wasn't a complete loss. With Tall being a butthead, the hubby didn't want him around on his birthday anyway, heh.

On the Halloween front, we don't have plans. The hubby has to work, probably until about ten at night, plus it's been years since I bothered to put effort into a costume. A couple years back, I wore the dress I got married in and called myself a hippie, and a couple years before that I wore my old prom dress and basically just went goth, thank you Hot Topic. I typically just curl my hair or something, make an effort to look a little different and call it good. Maybe it's lazy, but then again, I'm lazy. We got invited to a party down the hall, thrown by Hairy's roommate. We most likely won't go, but it should be interesting to say the least. Either Li'l Mama is going to throw a hissy fit over the noise, or get shit faced and cause a whole different kind of trouble. I kind of think the hubby and I should just sit back, relax and debate calling in a few dozen MIP's to the cops, hehe. I wonder if they could beat the record this building set back in June while we were in California. There's always hope I guess.

On the me front, ugh. I can't sleep, but at the same time it feels like that's all I ever do. I keep waking up after four hours and have to spend the next four hours trying not to wake the hubby or Our Bum. I've been taking a nap in the afternoon and even that sucks. It takes me forever to fall asleep and then I wake up later then intended and have slept the day away. I need to eat more, I know it would help. One meal a day is not enough, I get it. Not only have I trained my body to just not be hungry over the last couple years, but I get so psyched out about my teeth (mad issues I tell you, unreasonable, i.e. phobia) that it makes eating anything a challenge. Ain't I neurotic as hell? Yeah, it's fun.

On the blog front... I'm done with this post, heh.

Long Story Short

(Because I simply don't have the time.)

Yes we looked at an apartment. Two bedroom, one bath, a total of six closets, dishwasher and even a thirty year old washer/dryer combo. Did we take it? No. Wanna know why? Our satellite. The owner had no intension of letting a dish be mounted to the roof and in doing a little research, it would be ridiculous expensive to try and switch to the only cable provider in this area. Not including the two-hundred dollar installation fee, and after the initial discounts, it's about eighty dollars more a month to switch, with virtually no real difference to compensate for the increase. You see the dilemma?

So yeah, the apartment hunt is still on. But on a brighter note, Ketchup is still gone. Our Bum is so much more manageable, polite and respectful. (It helps that he think's I'm special, hehe.)

Our social lives have basically boomed. People come over every night instead of just Monday night, and standing room only is becoming more and more common. Tall even took up residence on our floor last night verses the half hour drive home at three-thirty in the morning. Good thing we don't mind.

Gotta go now, people keep calling and want to come over so it's time to play the lovely host. See ya later blog!